Thinking of Fostering: Here’s what you need to know

posted by Chris Valentine

If for one reason or another you’re considering fostering a child, then you should know to be aware that this decision is likely to affect several areas in your life. From finances to your home arrangement, you should be flexible to adjust whatever is necessary for your foster child to feel comfortable and welcome. And besides the numerous consideration, it’s a pretty incredible and rewarding experience so aspire to enjoy every minute of it.

Here is what you need to know before you make that fantastic commitment.

Be Realistic About “Damaged” Foster Kids

There is this myth that foster children tend to be too flawed and psychologically damaged, hence very difficult to care for. But that isn’t usually the case. They are regular kids who need more love and care. Most of the time they have been removed from their homes due to negligence and abuse. And they tend to get used to their “reality” so don’t even see anything wrong with it. Some won’t even be overly excited about being in your home and can take the resentment out on you. And some parents can be tough to handle. So be prepared to be strong and patient.

You will Be Opening Your Door Often To Social Workers

Are you a very reserved individual and would mind having strangers in your house every now and then? If yes, then it’s time to reconsider your decision. When you decide to foster a child/children, you must be ready to cooperate with government professional officials. You have to follow a specific guideline and keep the communication channels open. And that includes allowing officials to visit you and the child to discuss matters concerning them.

How Will It Affect Your Finances?

Truth be told, fostering isn’t a get-rich-quick-scheme and you shouldn’t think of it that way. Therefore it’s incredibly important if you’re financially stable. According to, though you will receive state subsidies for your caregiving services, you might have to take care of some expenses on your own. For instance, you might want to ensure that your house is big enough to accommodate an extra head. You will also from time to time foot bills of other extracurricular activities you choose to enroll the child. Yes, you really don’t have to be rich to take this responsibility but it will be less of a burden to you if you’re stable.

You Need To Be Emotionally Stable

Taking someone else into your home and taking care of them isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. So if you’re doing so chances are you love the child and would develop an emotional connection with them. While that’s good for both of you, keep in mind that there will come a time when you will have to part ways. So how bad are you at saying goodbye? Be open-minded and know you have done your part. Some foster parent-child relationships last a lifetime, even after parting ways.

Giving answers to the above questions will help you evaluate yourself on how ready you’re for fostering. Remember it isn’t a walk in the park, so be ready to make various adjustments especially in the beginning and end. But it’s always are warding lifetime experience that will change the way you view life. So if you feel you’re up-to-the challenge, go for it and change a life today!

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