Living abroad can be an exhilarating experience that allows you to broaden your horizons and explore new and unfamiliar terrains, but it can also be a challenging process that brings on feelings of alienation, loneliness, and anxiety, which is otherwise known as a culture shock.
While it may affect people differently, there are some common phases typically associated with this shock that most travelers go through. To help you overcome this rough patch, we’ll explain the main stages of this experience and offer some tips on how to deal with their symptoms.
The Honeymoon Stage
The first stage of moving overseas can be described as experiencing an initial euphoria. This phase is often overwhelmingly positive as most travelers will typically get too caught up in all the things their new home has to offer, from the language and the food to the surroundings and the people. At this stage, you’ll be more likely to recognize the cultural similarities and be infatuated by the differences.
The Frustration Stage
Gradually, the euphoria will start to diminish, giving way to irritation and anxiety. The frustration stage is probably the hardest part of culture shock as it can be triggered by the smallest things like missing the bus, getting lost, or facing difficulty while ordering food at a restaurant. During this phase, you’ll experience a feeling of disorientation as the cultural differences become more overwhelming than the similarities and with this, bouts of depression and homesickness can arise.
The Adjustment Stage
As travelers begin to feel more comfortable and familiar with their new environments, their frustration will slowly begin to subside. This is when everyday tasks like navigation and communication become easier. As you gradually begin to understand the differences, the initial shock and frustration will significantly decrease and you’ll begin to achieve a balance of emotions. At this stage, you’ll start seeing your new environment in a much more positive outlook that will allow you to finally relax.
The Acceptance Stage
After wrestling with these conflicting emotions, most travelers will begin to feel at home in their new environment. This doesn’t mean that you’ll suddenly understand your new surroundings, instead, it signifies that you’ll eventually realize that complete understanding isn’t necessarily the key to functioning and thriving in your new home. Reaching this level of acceptance will enable you to follow a steady routine where talking to strangers will become much easier and the order of things will make way more sense.
How to Deal with It
Now that you know the most common stages of moving to a new country, you’re likely to experience when moving overseas, comes the part where you figure out how to deal with your emotions the best way you can.
- First off, start by learning as much as possible about your new home ahead of time. This means reading some travel forums, guidebooks, and news reports and talking to people who are familiar with that country. Learning about things like the healthcare quality, safety levels, dining customs, religious beliefs, and traditional cultural do’s and don’ts specific to your future home country will allow you to better prepare for the differences which can make your adjustment period go much smoother.
- Upon arrival, keep a journal where you take note of the things you love the most during the honeymoon phase. This will come in especially handy during the frustration phase when you’ll need to be reminded of all the good things you love about your new environment instead of all the things that bother you.
- After you unpack and settle in, you’ll want to start forming connections, even if you don’t feel like it. It may seem quite intimidating at first, but if you push through, you’re going to meet local people and make new connections which can make you feel like you’re a part of the community and help you cope with the cultural differences.
- To communicate with the locals without feeling alienated, make an effort to learn at least the basics of the local language because, at the end of the day, the better you can communicate with the locals, the more you’ll feel at home.
One last word to the wise; try to keep an open mind and a positive attitude when dealing with unfamiliar cultural differences, even if they seem alarming or absurd at first. This will help you get through the emotional rollercoaster that comes with moving overseas as smoothly as possible. It’s also important to remember that while adapting to an unfamiliar culture in an entirely new environment can be one of the most difficult parts about moving to another country, culture shock is essentially an inevitable part of the experience.