Many couples are now using the amazing art of tantric massage and tantra to prolong their lovemaking. Tantric techniques are perfect for boosting your sex life and the relationship you have with your partner. If you’re looking for some tantric massage techniques to improve your moves between the sheets, here are 5 methods to perform.
Unlike regular sex, tantra is all about slow lovemaking. Tantric techniques involve relaxation and
letting things go. Rather than focusing on the orgasm, you take time to notice the moment and the build up of arousal.
The meaning of tantra is to weave sexual energy throughout the body to culminate in a happy ending to remember. However, tantra begins softly. Tantric massage works best in a comfortable area with no distractions.
You can play soothing music, light a few scented candles and dim the lighting for a sensual atmosphere.
Tantra incorporates meditation techniques to enhance its therapeutic effect, helping you to last longer in the bedroom. After you’ve started a tantric massage, try breathing in sync with your partner. To appreciate the effect of this, try to understand the power of breath and how it makes you feel – long, deep breaths help you to relax, while fast breaths enhance excitement.
If you’re struggling to breathe in sync with your partner, watch your partner closely. Put your hand on their heart and breathe with them. Alternatively, you may find inhaling when they exhale and vice versa may help.
Use scented body oil to give your partner a sensual massage. Start to massage more intimately, working towards the genital area. Tantra sex is about creating an energetic connection and body to body contact helps to awaken this sexual awareness.
Tantric massage provides stimulation, helping you to take your partner to the edge of orgasm and back again. The slow build up of arousal via massage gives you pleasure for hours.
Using intimate massage enhances the mental and physical connection between you and your partner, as well as helping to prevent premature ejaculation. Instead of being wary of sex or struggling with negative sexual emotions, you’ll begin to relish hours of endless lovemaking.
During tantric massage, start to notice each and every touch. You’ll find new ways of pleasure and be able to communicate what you like and what you don’t like to your partner. As well as being aware of your own sensations, watch carefully for the reactions of your partner. How are they responding to your touch?
Learn to practice understanding your senses during sex and connect them to your inner self. There may be certain sounds, tastes or smells which turn you on. Think of sex as a way of discovery in the bedroom.
Discovering new ways of pleasuring each other brings excitement to the bedroom. Free yourself from any taboos you have with lovemaking and embrace your new found sexual freedom. When you repress your sexual nature, your sexual energy is also blocked. Tantra helps you to open up to new sexual experiences on a path to enlightenment. Don’t be afraid to make noises or try new positions which bring long-lasting sex.
Tantra can help you to manage your arousal. This means you keep yourself and your partner on the edge of orgasm and back again.
London-based tantric massage agency, Karma Tantric, recommend using a tantra numbering system to communicate with your partner about his/her arousal levels. For example, 10 is an orgasm, while 1 is nothing. Try not to go over a 7 and ride the scale up and down until you reach an explosive energy release at the end of your lovemaking session. To achieve this, try using different methods of foreplay, including dress-up or taking a steamy shower together. You could also write down your fantasies and take turns in playing them out – there are no limitations in tantric sex so you’re free to be playful and teasing as much as you like.
Talking through your likes and dislikes will also help you to ride the waves of arousal as you’ll what moves to make to take your partner to the brink of orgasm.
Maintaining eye contact with your partner can also help to bring the male and female energies together to culminate in a mind-blowing explosion of energy.
These 5 tantra techniques will help to improve your sex life and give you hours of pleasure. Continuous practice and opening your heart (and mind) to sexual exploration will enable you and your partner to enjoy endless lovemaking.